Sunday, September 7, 2008

some guy took a picture of my penis at the club last night :(

another day, more random incoherent rambling. I decided today that i would talk about nlp (very briefly and non-in depth and such). The one facet that I would like to address involves how your subconscious mind ignores negative commands. I think to most clearly elucidate my point I'll use and example. okay, now I want everyone to go into your head and do not think about a blue tree. The funny thing is your subsconcious cannot process the do not. so any normal human being, when doing that exercise will inevitably picture a blue tree. Now what does this mean. it has large-scale implications on how you should think and how you should live your life. For example if you want to lose weight. You shouldn't say i can't eat doughnuts, i can't do this, i can't do that. your body, and your pavlovian response to telling yourself i can't eat doughnuts is the same a telling yourself you can as far as your subconscious mind goes. Instead. focus on things that do not negate something. For example saying I don't want to be fat is bad. your subconcious still is "preoccupied" so to speak with the concept of you being fat. Instead, one should say, "I want to be skinny" or "it feels so great to eat right and have lots of energy" seems stupid. it really isn't nobody needs a blue tree in their mind. Furthermore, since apparently this turned into a pseudo-discussion about weight loss, I'll address a few more factors. Set goals. The way to set goals is an art. First off WRITE THEM DOWN. it processes it through your brain in a more bilateral way and increases your chances of success. Set goals that are challenging but attainable. If your goals are too easy you'll get bored; too hard, you'll get discouraged. Third, set goals that are easily defineable so you can determine if you're successful or not. Now when setting goals, they need to be concrete and able to be objectively measured and under your control. For example saying I want to lose weight is a horrible goal to have. First of all it's vague, second of all it doesn't outline an objective way to determine if you are headed in the wrong direction. a better goal would be. I want to lose 5 pounds by 2 weeks from today. HOWEVER, even this goal is flawed. weight is not something that you have control over. it fluctuates based on all sorts of variables you can't control (hormones, stress, blah blah blah). So instead the goal needs to be objectively and unbiasedly measureable as well as being very descriptive and lacking any vagueness. The right kind of goal for weight loss would be something like. I am going to eat 1200 calories or less every day, drink 64 oz of water everyday. and exercise 30 minutes on the treadmill three days a week. These are goals you have complete control over. losing five pounds on the otherhand is not in your control... and having a goal that isn't in your control is why people get so upset about dieting. they say they've eaten so well and exercised but haven't lost weight. You can't control when or how much weight you choose, but if you use goals in the way aforementioned, you will have clear cut boundaries to let you know if you are achieving your goals or not. This will lesson discouragement and ambivalence and ultimately create better results.

i am thinking that I want to start up a non-profit/volunteer program. i'm on the fence which direction i want to go, but I very much want to help the less fortunate. If any of you are interested or have any ideas, hit me up. the mindset i have about it thus far is very utilitarian. I want to extend the least amount of resources and time for the greatest result. There are charities out there that raise a lot of money and do a lot of good things. but i want to be able to do things that will be extremely beneficial with using as little resources as possible... more to come i'm sure.

i love harold and kumar 2. i watch it nightly. it makes me giggle.

i believe i have a date with me pillow now.

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